Some Thoughts on Entertaining

I have never quite developed a knack for formal entertaining. No matter how elegantly I attempt to set the table, inscribe the place cards, or garnish the dishes, there remains an inherent casual-ness to the atmosphere. It could be my sense of humor, it could be that we live in a basement, or it could be that the stuffiness of formal dining is at odds with the values with which I was raised. Specifically, I want all my guests to feel at ease in my home. 

Besides the inescapable "keep it casual" rule, there are three important elements of my approach to entertaining. First and foremost, I want the food to be delicious. No matter how elegant the table or fancy the dishes, if you're serving McNuggets, your party is a bust. Take the time and effort to create something special. If you don't have time for a dinner party, don't throw one. Use make-ahead techniques, practice on weekends, and know what you're doing before you jump off the deep end. You'll stress yourself out, have a bad time, and ultimately disappoint your guests.

Second, select your group carefully. Invite over close friends who bring something to the party. Too many people can create a chaotic conversation. Putting the wrong two people at the same table could create a decidedly awkward evening. Enjoy your friends and spend time with them. They'll have a better time, and so will you.

My final guiding principle is to let the evening take on a life of its own. If you try to control too much, you'll end up frustrated. Allow your guests to stay as long as they like. If someone's late, while tardiness is quite rude, don't let it ruin your fun. Go with the flow. You have control over flavors and food, who's been invited, and the atmosphere you've created. Let everyone build on that foundation a wonderful affair that you'll all remember. 

In short -- 1) Make the food good, know what you're doing before you jump off the deep end. 2) Choose a small group of good people. You're not running a restaurant, quality over quantity. 3) Go with the flow, you will be glad you did.